The social constructs that judge mothers and hold them up to unrealistic standards are just that….constructs. They are made up. They are man made.
I have major beef with the word, “supermom.”
I’ve been called a “supermom” a few times and that title has always come at moments when I’ve been hanging on by a thread. When I’ve overextended myself tending to my career, my household, and my children. When I’ve put everyone else’s needs in front of mine.
Honestly, being called a “supermom” doesn’t feel “super” at all. It feels distressing. It feels draining. And it’s 100% unsustainable.
Not to mention, the word automatically creates and reinforces comparison between moms. Moms don't need any more reasons to feel guilty.
Mom guilt is very real. I’ve had it. I still get it. It sounds something like this:
I’m not present enough.
I shouldn’t have raised my voice.
I’m selfish for wanting time to myself.
Why does that mom make it look so easy?
As mothers, we are hardwired to worry the minute we conceive, but mom guilt is something different altogether.
The social constructs that judge mothers and hold them up to unrealistic standards are just that….constructs. They are made up. They are man made. They are a way of forcing an ideal on mothers that is unrealistic, unattainable, and unfair.
Listen to my interview with Cynthia here:
We talked about “mom guilt” and all its contributing factors like being the “she-fault parent,” experiencing the “mother wound” and suffering under the “second shift” which I’ve written about before.
But more importantly, we talk about solutions. And the good news, they all involve Mothering Yourself.
Taking a Moment
Putting Yourself First
Lowering Expectations (b/c they are unrealistic to start with)
Asking for Help
Motherhood can be overwhelming and isolating, but I promise, your struggles and challenges are similar to so many mothers. Together we can overcome "mom guilt" and dismantle the concept of the supermom.
Because there is nothing super about being a supermom.